Ask Yourself First Before You Battle With Love

“Don't rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself. Feel yourself, experience yourself  and love yourself. Do this first and you will soon attract that special loving other.” ~Russ Von Hoelscher

Since Valentine's Day is fast approaching, let us talk about love. This is not a simple cheesy blog about love stories like those of in Wattpads (though I'm not against of Wattpad love stories) but somehow lessons or maybe pieces of advice that I may share with you. 

Loving someone and being loved back are one of the best things that you may encounter in this world. It is probably awesome. Fantastic, yes. However, we should always remind ourselves that the context of love is not like a game in ones mobiles wherein by just merely opening the "play" button you can have it all the way you want. 

Rather than jumping into yet another kind of love where you had experienced sorrow or bitterness, let me share to you what I realized (in the middle of my boring timeline) before entering a new one. I may not be an expert providing you with these pieces of realizations but I believe that experiences are always synonymous to knowledge. 

Here they are:

1. Am I ready?

Being ready has not something to do about filling the hollow part in your life with someone or a partner, but managing and creating a fully-lived life you always want to live. Readiness is about living decisively and passionately. 

2. Am I happy?

It took me ages of time to certainly believe that I'd be probably happy the moment when I have that someone in my life and take responsibility for my own happiness. Now, I know that happiness is not like a magic that would astonishingly shows up the moment I meet the love of my life. Happiness should always be there within you. 

3. Do I love myself?

Self-love is not selfish. If you don't feel worthy of love, then you will make compromises that could hurt you.

It’s only when you love yourself that you won't sabotage your dating and romantic happiness.

4. Do I know what I want from a relationship?

It is not always enough that you need someone just because you are bored. You don't enter a relationship just because you want someone who will give you bouquet of flowers, boxes of Ferrero Rochers or tons of bears that you will actually post to social medias or something. Yes, I know that you want those things and stuff but it should not be your center's mind to be willing enough to enter such commitment.

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So there, have a great Valentine's Day!